Reflected Best Self Exercise
Not sure what to do next?
It seems in terms of decision-making, I have heard a common theme from various sources, follow your strengths. Go all in on your strengths.
Jordan Harbinger has this neat exercise, the Reflected Best Self Exercise.
“The more objective you think you are, the more you discriminate — because you don’t realize how vulnerable you are to bias. So any time a trait is easy to observe or hard to admit, you need other people to hold up a mirror for you. Romantic partners and friends want to see you in a positive light — perhaps to rationalize their relationship with you — so may reinforce your inaccurate self-assessments or motivate you to fulfill their expectations. On the other hand, the people with whom you work closely have a vested interest in making you better — or at least less difficult to bear! The challenge: they’re often reluctant to tell you the stuff you don’t want to — but need to — hear.
Reach out to 15–20 colleagues, friends, and family members who know you well, and ask them to tell a story about a time when you were at your best. Analyze the common themes and create a portrait of your strengths through the eyes of others.”
When you have an unbiased portrait of your strengths, the best decision [for you] may become more apparent. After all, in Authentic Happiness, Dr. Martin Seligman talks about the alignment between your strengths and happiness.
Happiness may be found through exercising your strengths.
Learn more about the Jordan Harbinger Show: https://www.jordanharbinger.com/podcast/.
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Nathan Kolar, www.reachworldwide.ca
